Addicted. Alone. Broken.
That’s Where the Real You Begins
In all my 30 years of living…
I never considered myself an alcoholic.
But there I was — vomiting in my friend’s toilet, hands shaking like hell.
Jobless
Broke
Defeated
Embarrassed
And you’d think that would be my wake-up call.
NO.
Instead…
I was scrolling my phone, binge-watching Narcos,
plotting how I’d get my next drink.
That was rock bottom.
But here’s the truth most never face:
You’re finally empty enough… to be rebuilt.
The heartbreak.
The addictions.
The losses.
The dumb decisions.
They aren’t the failure.
They’re the forge.
Your shot at rewriting the story.
Self-Pity Is a Liar (And You’re Letting It Win)
A mentor once told me:
“Your thoughts follow your feelings. Change the mood — change the memory.”
When you’re in a bad mood,
all you can think of… is everything that’s gone wrong.
Your brain?
It stacks every failure into one giant pile of “my life sucks.”
Cue: Self-pity.
You start blaming everything and everyone —
Maybe they ARE at fault.
But ask yourself:
What good does that do you?
You can sit in it.
Or you can snap out of it.
Because that same principle works for you if you flip it.
Change the mood → change the way you see your life.
The 3-Step Reset — Miss One & You’re Screwed
Step 1 — Remove Liabilities
Change is a removal process.
Everyone thinks change is about adding.
It’s not.
Change is about clearing the junk.
You want muscle? First lose the fat.
You want a new life? First drop the dead weight.
Here’s what you REMOVE:
Victim mindset
Gossip & drama
Toxic friends
Self-sabotaging habits
Addictions
Bad environments
Excuses
I removed alcohol.
I even moved back in with my mum — yes, I went backwards to move forward.
What’s your removal process?
Because if you try to “change” while holding on to your old habits…
You’d have better luck drowning a fish.
Step 2 — Reset Your Mind
You’ve been stuck in your own head.
Stuck in self-pity.
It’s time to flood your brain with positive input.
Because if your life looks hopeless right now…
You need something to borrow hope from.
Read books
Subscribe to blogs & newsletters
Listen to uplifting audios, Podcasts.
Call positive friends.
Take a walk.
Never underestimate the media you consume.
The goal?
Not a magical life overhaul overnight.
But to train your mind to spot opportunity again.
To stop using your past as your life sentence…
and start seeing it as your launchpad.
Step 3 — Rebuild the Lens
“Your mood is the lens. Your memory is the photograph. Change the lens — and even the same photo looks different.”
Your past didn’t change.
But how you see it can.
The Bottom Line
Rock bottom isn’t your end.
It’s your permission to start over — the right way.
Empty enough to rebuild.
But only if you drop the dead weight, reset your mind,
and change the way you see yourself.
The question is…